Dating Advice Tips – Do You Feel Frustrated and Sick of the Whole Dating Scene?On by
When we hit the dating scene in our teens, romantic controversy can make us feel grown up. But when we’re done dating for fun and begin looking for Mr. Right, the romantic vagaries that once excited us can become depressing. Just as relationships can suffer from holding patterns, so can the dating process. If you’re looking for Mr. Right but he’s nowhere in sight, there are two questions that, when answered honestly, improve your chances of finding love
Where Do You Look for Dates?
In many dating advice books, we’re told that any place is a good place to find a date. However, we often develop a routine that narrows our dating pool to bars and nightclubs. Are bars and nightclubs a bad place to meet dates? Not necessarily. But they’re much better places to actually go on a date. The reason? Alcohol. When people drink, they become more outgoing. Meet them sober and you might encounter a different person. By the same token, they might find a different person as well.
Bars and other nightspots are a great place to cut loose and lock lips with handsome strangers. But if you’re looking for you’re soul mate, you would have more success in places whose atmosphere is conducive to judging compatibility. Instead of bars, health clubs, churches and volunteer organizations are great places to find a serious date.
What Kind of People are you dating?
In terms of looks, most of us have a certain “type” of man that we prefer to date. However, we also tend to prefer a “type” of personality. When you’re dating for fun, a man who id goof looking but whose personality is merely “interesting” can make for an exciting string of hot nights. However, when you’re ready to meet your soul mate, you need to look for that aspect personality that’s hard to detect during the first few dates: character.
While most men display chivalry, politeness and kind-heartedness as they attempt to win you over; when they exhibit these characteristics as a means to an end, they soon start showing their true colors. If you continually date men whose personalities don’t hold, seeming to go from light to darkness in a matter of weeks, it’s time to start evaluating your dates’ character instead of just sampling their personality. Instead of just exchanging sweet nothings, try to mix in some questions that reveal a man’s convictions, deeper passions and serious views. If you find that his responses reveal animus, you can safely assume that you’re not dating Mr. Nice Guy.